YODA-ness

YODA-ness

There is a difference between adjusting your mindset and suppressing your feelings.  There are times to feel mad, sad, pissed off or grief.  But there is a PROBLEM if all you do is want to wallow in this state for a long period of time.  You are VERY allowed to feel these things but give yourself a time to go through it, and then get yourself out of it.  Once you get to a place where you aren't worrying about all the variables and stuff around you, and you honestly don't care about them or the people talking about them, then you are getting to where you really want to be.   You are releasing them rather than just pushing them down inside you.  They don't cause any stress or concern for you.  This change has to come at the front end of the issues though, not the back end.  This means that if you still get pissed when you hear what people say or see what they do, then you haven't changed anything about how you are really feeling.  Maybe you don't scream outwardly, but inside you are still just as pissed!  You have adjusted your reactions but you are still be affected by it.  Since you aren't doing anything about it, then it's like sweeping problems under the rug until there is a giant lump.  This will eventually be a MASSIVE problem.  But if you can have someone say some pretty nasty shit to you and not be affected, or you aren't pretending to NOT be mad, then you have gotten to the point where you can release those things.  It's here where you get to take control of your world.  You aren't weighed down by other peoples crap, others people comments, or other peoples responses.  I'm by no means perfect but have been able to come a long way!  I still think MOST people on the road are the worst drivers.  My daughters will tell you that I think everyone is a BONEHEAD (mostly because they are haha)! But now I recognize when I don't give glaring look at someone, or yell at them, or get all fired up.  I just blow it off, or I'll laugh it off, and then I forget about it.  I will save that energy for the things i really need it for.  Sometimes I wonder if I have become soft for not being as fiery as I used to be.  Then I remember what I got out of it before and what I get out of having more control now.  I pick the current state of Yoda-ness! Plus it doesn't rot my insides!!  :)

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PRETTY TOUGH HUH?

PRETTY TOUGH HUH?

How tough are you?  People will say they are tough all the time.  They wouldn't let this or that happen to them.  But then when you watch what they do they really aren't tough at all.  Let's take a simple example:  nutrition.  Let's say someone puts down $100 to have someone do their nutritional coaching.  The coach comes up with the numbers, they check up on you each week to see how you are doing, and they are willing to help with meals, grocery lists or whatever else.  They are usually are putting in WAY more time than the $100 would really be worth. But that's not really the point.  The point is that MANY, in fact WAY MORE than I would imagine, seem to justify the idea that they can't do it.  And you can fill in ANY NUMBER of reasons here for why. Many times nutritional plans will be either 1) cheap, in which no one really finishes, 2) relatively expensive, something like $50-200, which still ends up being blown off, or even 3) $500, which you would think people would cut their arm or leg off to make it work but still just let the money go.  The thing is that changing your eating routine is tough.  It can be a nuisance with having to count numbers, etc.  It can be uncomfortable with how you feel or being hungry.  It may be time consuming to have to do your meal prep, etc.  But you decided at some point that you wanted to change your body. You weren't happy about it or how you felt.  So you put money down.  Then after all that, you don't change anything.  During your check-ins, you say it was a tough week or you couldn't do this or that.  It sounds good to you, but the fact is that YOU are letting it go.  YOU are choosing to let this happen to you.  If you decided to do something for your child, I'm pretty sure that you wouldn't let ANYTHING stand in your way.  But something like YOUR health gets tossed in the back seat.  If its important, then MAKE it happen.  Make the choice to do it, and the BE STRONG!!!  Don't let yourself weenie out of it.  Don't let excuses like weddings, parties, trips, tough work week, etc get n the way.  Prove to yourself that YOU are strong enough to do what you set your mind to.  Stick to the plan and make the changes in your world AMAZING!!! YOU CAN DO IT!! :)

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LUCK OR MAGIC

LUCK OR MAGIC

I read a post by Pat Vellner, runner-up at the 2018 CrossFit Games, about his thoughts on the Games how they all turned out.  He mentioned that after the fall from the cargo net, had blood from his mouth, has to go to the hospital to get evaluated, and was told he could continue ONLY if there wasn't any more blood.  When he stepped on to the floor, his perspective of the entire event changed.  He said he felt an "un-common" calm feeling on the floor.  It wasn't all about the win.  It was about doing his thing.  It was about enjoying being out there because he might not be able to again.  And while this all went down, he was able to win events, place high in others and end up in the number 2 spot in the world, even though he started off in number 35 after the Crit race!  How do you feel calm, when you are are fighting to get out of a hole you put yourself in, in the biggest CrossFit Event ever?  It's all about the change of perspective.  When he came back from the hospital, who expected him to do well?  I don't even know if he thought he should do well.  Basically, the pressure was taken off of him.  I mean if you aren't supposed to win then you are in a Win-Win situation.  No pressure to perform so all you have to do is do what you do.  And he did!  Without the pressure, he was able to have some of the best finishes in events he ever has and finish behind the Fitness Machine, known as Fraser.  Without the pressure, he was able to enter the FLOW state.  This is where your best performances will happen.  I would venture to say he "lucked out" to learn this lesson.  I honestly didn't start to grasp this until I was in my 40's.  I mean it doesn't make sense to train and not care about the outcome.  But this is EXACTLY how it needs to be.  The more you can take the unneeded pressure off yourself, the better you will be.  It doesn't mean you can't WANT to win but you need to not make that the focal point.  The focal point is just to do your best and do it with confidence in yourself and what you can do.  This is when the magic happens.  It happened to Pat:)

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THE CUP

THE CUP

We know that stress is bad for you.  We also know that MANY of us use our workouts as a time for us to get rid of stress.  But there is a problem.  Our bodies don't know the difference between work stress, family stress, health stress, money stress, relationship stress, sleep stress, or physical stress.  And guess what, these workouts that you do DO give you stress. Yes, they can calm your mind, or give you a period of time when you aren't thinking about your problems.  But you need to understand that it is still stress on your body.  Your body handles stress like a cup.  It takes it and the cup fills a little.  Then some more stress happens and a little more goes in the cup.  Eventually, if you aren't careful, the cup overflows with stress and your body then has to deal with all the Cortisol in your body (stress hormone) and this wreaks havoc on your systems.  Don't for a moment think that you will be able to recover or repair anything in your body, you won't be able to sleep, your libido will be down, you will be sluggish, your thoughts will be negative, and you will add more and more fat to your belly all that the same time.  So then how can you use workouts to help you and not hinder you?  If you are like me, you don't want to miss days.  Heres what you do:  DONT CARE ABOUT ANY OUTCOMES OF THE WORKOUT.  Don't feel like you have to be lifting heavy, don't feel like you have to beat anyone, don't feel like you have to go fast, don't feel like you have to perform.  The goal is movement and to let your brain rest and at the same time getting out some physical angst without putting any stress on your body.  You ARE NOT in training mode during this.  You are honestly in more of a rehab-ish state.  So just treat is as if you were playing with your kids.  Have fun, smile, cheer others on more, give high-fives during, etc.  Enjoy it. Don't push it.  I promise you won't lose your fitness.  In fact, the decreased stress will benefit you more than getting a PR on the workout.  Empty that cup!! :)

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IRON SHARPENS IRON

IRON SHARPENS IRON

Ever heard the phrase, "iron sharpens iron"?  Its a biblical phrase about how man needs man to become better (this is very paraphrased).  But I see this phrase being very important in life.  Not that you need other but that you NEED situations to make you sharp, and to make you better.  Let's say you are one of those people that everything seems to come easily.  How do you think you will respond when you actually have to fight or struggle for something?  You won't have the tools, the determination, or the grit to push through it.  You might THINK you do since everything before was easy, but reality can be very shocking!   Now, this isn't saying that you didn't work hard to become good.  I'm not trying to take anything away from your success.  But there is a difference between working hard and having to fight.  Now let's say you have a kid that had a rough upbringing.  Didn't have much support so he had to learn to support himself.  Didn't have a ton of help so he had to figure out how to find the help or figure ways to get the help on his own.  Didn't have the money so he had to be resourceful about how he got things or to learn to forge relationships in ways that he can pay things back in trade.  Didn't have any extra time so he had to cut into his sleep time to make up on skills or abilities when others were sleeping.  Take this kid and throw them into some life situations.  How do you think he would do?  He would probably be able to make it through just fine because of the skills and experience he had from the fights he had earlier in his life.  Obviously, someone with these situations could choose to just give up, or to cheat, or to lie but those are the ones that won't make it.  We all want success.  But most don't have the tools to get themselves to be able to succeed. These tools have to either be LEARNED or EARNED. And the earned ones are MUCH easier to recall and use since they were actually real life tested by YOU!  So yes, enjoy those nice cushy situations when everything goes great.  But get excited when it gets tough because it will sharpen you.  It will make you razor sharp and strong so that you are able to do battle again and crush it.  It will pay off in HUGE dividend!! :)

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