“How can they do this to me??!?” How many times have you said this or felt this? Feeling like the world is coming at YOU. Like everyone is against YOU!
One of my favorite books, which is a big deal because I wouldn’t fancy myself a reader, is “The Four Agreements”. It has four basic rules to live your best life. Each one is very simple, not easy, but EXTREMELY EFFECTIVE in making your life better! One of the most underrated pieces of the book is the second agreement: don’t take anything personally.
The other three are also important but I think this one is extremely important especially in today’s world. It is IMPOSSIBLE to say anything to anyone without them get offended by it. It’s almost like they are expected to take offense or think that they are attacking you automatically. I’m dealing with stuff in my own world, things that are emotionally charged. And its VERY easy to get pissed off about them, to allow the anger to grow to massive amounts, to get so pissed off at the person saying this or that. But in reality, what does that do? Nothing. It doesn’t blow off steam or get anything fixed.
The idea of not taking anything personally is this: “Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves”. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds”, says the author Don Miguel Ruiz.
He continues by saying, “Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up. But, as you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you won’t need to place your trust or worth in what others do or say. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices. You are never responsible for the actions of others, only responsible for yours. When you truly understand this and refuse to take things personally, you can’t be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others.”
I LOVE IT!!! You are NEVER responsible for the actions of others. Only for YOU! This allows you to love and do you without the fear or pain of others. Do you the best you can. Make the best decisions you can and smile.:)
FEEL THE BURN!!!